Seeing other PUAs?
So I was out with Skylark tonight at a gig where he was playing. I wasn’t there to sarge at all (My back’s been hurting all day, I have chem work that I should have been figuring out instead of going out for a drink and I feel like i’m putting on weight again, so I need to start exercising again… Why did I even stop? Weird. But anyway…) and somehow instead ended up watching the interractions that other people make and how they demonstrate how NOT to play this little game of ours.
Example 1 – Drunk dude to girl with flower band.
Ok, so Man 1 (cider man) walks up to girl with hairband adorning flower (Flower girl) and says something to her, points at his friend (drunk guy) and then walks away. DG moves over to FG and immediate heavy kino, before he’d even said a word. The next 15 minutes was him drinking and asking her questions while she had very closed off body language, was playing with her phone, talking to her friends, etc. She may as well have been holding a big ‘FUCK OFF’ sign. Every time she said anything, he’d act as if he hadn’t heard (Even when I heard, three tables away) and would lean in for her to talk into his ear. As she did this, he would stare down her top and near enough drool. Needless to say, some emergency or other came up and the three girls left.
Lessons:
A) Alcohol and game do not mix. Even if you’re just using it for a bit of ‘Dutch courage’. By drinking to encourage your courage, you are not working on the skills that you really should be. As you drink more, your brain is affected. You may think you’re being cocky funny, but in actuality you’re a slurring dickhead. Remember, it’s not that you’re talking, It’s not what you’re saying, it’s what you’re doing and HOW you do it.
B) If you wanna see her boobs, don’t stare down her top. I hate AMOGging people, but with that kind of display, you better believe I went over there, AMOGged him out of set (I prompted them to find that emergency) and then left myself. I don’t care that I wasn’t going for them, I just cared that people like that make it harder for us to pick up. Women expect guys on the approach to be like that as a result of pissheads like him and they put up their shields, which is why a lot of AFCs suffer AA.
Example 2 – How not toneg and how not to ignore… or possibly isolate? …your target.
Great, so we’re then outside at the end of the session, when a guy comes out walking like he was john wayne, legs so saddle bent that you could have tied string between his ankles and used him like a bow. He walks over to his mates, exchanges a few words then moves across to a couple of girls who were stood a few feet away from me having a cigarette. He talks, bodyrocks, talks, bodyrocks, talks, bodyrocks, talks and walks away. From the looks on their faces, he was negging them with every sentence. This was done artfully I have to admit because throughout the whole encounter the two girls barely said three words to him. After he walked off, they looked at each other in puzzlement and left.
HE, however, rejoins his friends at the end of the pathway by the doors when two beauties walk out. The three guys pounced as they walked by. I will admit, they seemed to do a good job of opening. The two girls stopped and chatted, I was oh-so impressed that this guy and his friends were not being… themselves, I guess… Was impressed, until one guy kind of side-stepped between the two girls. He was either ignoring his target, the shortish brunette, by placing his back in her path (Blocking her from moving from the spot where she stood, as his friends were behind her *and not keeping her attention* so she couldn’t move forward or backwards and couldn’t see her friend through the other guy) or he was trying to isolate the medium blonde, who obviously couldn’t give a shit, was just cold and wanted to go home.
Brunette and I shared some eye contact and a laughing shrug. Had I been in the mood to game I’m sure I would have got her number at least by ‘saving’ her from the group of wannabe AFCs.
Lessons to be learned here:
A) Again, alcohol does not help you.
B) If you are using body language to ignore the target, do it subtley. If you are obvious with it, you come off as a twat. If you’re Isolating, have your friends capture the obstacle’s attention and ACTUALLY ISOLATE, don’t just stand between them.
C) If you see dumb stuff happening with wannabe PUAs, go over and either help them or help the girls. You can use all sets for social proof (at the very least) later on and maybe more if they can develop into contacts or f-closes.
Well anyway, What I’m ultimately saying here is that when you are out and about, watch the interractions, learn from other people’s mistakes and use them, integrate these lessons into your game and it will start to become a lot easier than you ever thought it could be.
Think about the coolest thing you ever saw. What about the coolest thing you ever heard? The coolest thing you ever felt? The coolest thing someone ever said?
Why are these things cool? Ultimately, it’s all cool because it all seems easy, right? Although you know that there’s effort involved, the practioner is confident in what he or she is doing. To really do anything with style, it has to seem effortless.
Of course, we know it’s not easy, but the trick is to make it seem like it is to an outside observer or the person you’re interracting with. Easy means confident and relaxed, appearing as though the outcome doesn’t matter.
So I guess that’s it. Relax and let go of the outcome… Learn from other people’s mistakes and don’t drink when picking up women.
Wall. Of. Text. I know, but whatever. Peace.
